tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post8006354841367375191..comments2024-03-21T04:02:46.799-07:00Comments on Little Catholic Bubble: Follow-up to my "save your marriage in five minutes" post!Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-53443990835380220372016-10-08T21:36:28.597-07:002016-10-08T21:36:28.597-07:00I must recommend "Fascinating Womanhood"...I must recommend "Fascinating Womanhood"! Older book, same idea, very practical with positive examples. I always go back to what I learned through that book. Don't give up on your husbands, ladies!Chabehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12970876309026159268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-82080141409406516092013-10-27T20:10:44.468-07:002013-10-27T20:10:44.468-07:00Way to go, Lelia! Thanks for writing a great post!...Way to go, Lelia! Thanks for writing a great post! Lauren @ Magnify the Lord with Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12266540380917036624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-53521314345495935742013-10-27T14:10:18.745-07:002013-10-27T14:10:18.745-07:00sometimes they are met with scorn
Yes. That could... <i>sometimes they are met with scorn</i><br /><br />Yes. That could definitely happen. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06976342950011924171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-79887827334925855712013-10-27T12:21:32.414-07:002013-10-27T12:21:32.414-07:00Simple does not mean simplistic or stupid. It has ...Simple does not mean simplistic or stupid. It has absolutely zero to do with intellectual discussions. I know that many men have given the book to their wives to read. Sometimes with very miraculous results, sometimes they are met with scorn (for those women who cannot break out of the habit of contempt for their husbands).Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-19772567188738767312013-10-27T11:15:34.316-07:002013-10-27T11:15:34.316-07:00Men are simple creatures as she said (and as the m...<i>Men are simple creatures as she said (and as the men agreed). There is not a whole lot that is needed past the basics of respect, physical attention and affection, and a nice meal.</i><br /><br />Is that what these books say? Is it appropriate for a husband to give them to his wife? Don't men also value intellectual discussions?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06976342950011924171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-32347521024814873792013-10-27T05:11:29.780-07:002013-10-27T05:11:29.780-07:00So many pretty girls are mean we assume the two mu...So many pretty girls are mean we assume the two must go together somehow. Big mistake on our part. Ladies we will try to remedy this. Sorry.<br /><br />I'm a man, but I can change, if I have to, I guess.Dellentiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10411975428854800986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-81181022257278957732013-10-27T04:56:11.049-07:002013-10-27T04:56:11.049-07:00I don't know if men are simple as opposed to h...I don't know if men are simple as opposed to honest or lets say functionality vs. aesthetics. We don't care where the couch goes in the living room so long as we have a place to sit down. A woman will likely remember something that happened 18 years ago and be happy or upset, guys are more apt to have mastered the art of letting things go, not worth it really. There's a beauty in understanding that. Now off to buy some black velvet Elvis bullfighting posters to hang in the wife's dainty foo foo dining room.Dellentiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10411975428854800986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-55341741995124836262013-10-26T06:30:50.467-07:002013-10-26T06:30:50.467-07:00No, no no. You're a pretty princess, Keep repe...No, no no. You're a pretty princess, Keep repeating that.Don't give the person that adores you an even break. It's all about you. Center of attention. That's where happiness lies. You'r happiest when you get love not when you give it. I must send out more of my minions. It's scary when really beautiful people start acting beautiful. As if the beauty was for others and not just for themselves. I must put an end to this NOW!Dellentiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10411975428854800986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-29034418356014459642013-10-25T21:08:50.017-07:002013-10-25T21:08:50.017-07:00Lena, I read that same book years ago. The bottom...Lena, I read that same book years ago. The bottom line from that book, and in reality, is that having solid self-esteem and self-confidence will attract quality men. What you and I don't understand, and what it didn't explain, is how truly b****y women - I mean those with self-esteem and a generous side of b***h, attract and marry some great guys who'd do anything for them. I can think of some examples where others and I have questioned over and over what particular men we know saw in their wives.GFNYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02003166578358673587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-77599951441000362072013-10-25T18:55:46.858-07:002013-10-25T18:55:46.858-07:00I agree that it's more of a book for marriage ...I agree that it's more of a book for marriage than dating. Dating is definitely an important time in a relationship, but it's somewhat unique. I feel like a book on discernment before marriage is better suited for dating!<br /><br />Lena, I totally know how hard it is out there. Ugh!! The good ones are often the guys who will sacrifice a lot and sometimes are overlooked for "bad guys" too. It can be just so hard to get past the first few dates to figure out a person's true character sometimes! And then, lots of people have major baggage as a result of broken family backgrounds that fuel very poor decisions and dating habits. :( I hope your Mr. Good Enough comes along soon!! (I would say "Prince Charming" but at least in my life, I had to learn that my husband wasn't really meant to be Prince Charming but instead a real human being, lol).Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04966555296621723142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-28754771059674675922013-10-25T14:51:39.939-07:002013-10-25T14:51:39.939-07:00Lena, there are plenty of jerks out there, so thos...Lena, there are plenty of jerks out there, so those jerks will not respond to goodness, necessarily. And, I think the book really is designed to address the marriage dynamic, not so much the dating or seeking stage. It's rough out there, I agree!Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-53706914709092760412013-10-25T12:42:25.913-07:002013-10-25T12:42:25.913-07:00Yet, somehow, being nice and kind hasn't worke...Yet, somehow, being nice and kind hasn't worked out for me. I do remember reading Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship. There is some magical ingredient women have that makes a man put up with c*** and want to make her happy. WHAT IS THAT MAGICAL INGREDIENT??? Yelling in someone else's comment box is probably not the magical ingredient. <br /><br />Lenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09173616693453942166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-47426150004880647582013-10-25T10:30:29.372-07:002013-10-25T10:30:29.372-07:00Although I think I will amend this and say that I ...Although I think I will amend this and say that I believe she does give very good ideas about how to love your husband. Men are simple creatures as she said (and as the men agreed). There is not a whole lot that is needed past the basics of respect, physical attention and affection, and a nice meal. Our men do so much, sacrificially, for us, and they require shockingly little in return. :)<br /><br />Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-89299506985844670522013-10-25T10:27:12.912-07:002013-10-25T10:27:12.912-07:00GraceofAdoption, point taken. But in her defense, ...GraceofAdoption, point taken. But in her defense, I think the <i>power</i> of the book is in the holding up of a mirror to the women. When we see how we act (it's like putting a hidden camera in a home and playing it back), we are shocked, and truly often ashamed. We just didn't know. That in itself is enough to stop the behavior, and move us to make an about-face. The rest of it (how to love your individual husband, in your unique marriage) is beyond the scope of the book, I think. Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-10689424832887080392013-10-25T10:07:56.004-07:002013-10-25T10:07:56.004-07:00It was a great book, I read it based on your recom...It was a great book, I read it based on your recommendation!! Thank you! ...My one complaint is that I wish there were more positive and practical examples for how to pro-actively love and respect your husband, rather than just lists and examples of how NOT to. But still, a really helpful resource.Mike Brummondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15276797377377334510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-51243469935779988492013-10-24T23:18:32.828-07:002013-10-24T23:18:32.828-07:00Agnes, your husband is a very blessed man, and vic...Agnes, your husband is a very blessed man, and vice versa! Let me know what you think of the book. (And, I love <i>The Way</i>!)Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-50128118473943543322013-10-24T20:25:35.010-07:002013-10-24T20:25:35.010-07:00I'm a new bride (going on 3 months) and I orde...I'm a new bride (going on 3 months) and I ordered the book the same day you first recommended it in your post Leila! I still have not started reading it, as I'm finishing up St. Josemaria Escrivas "The Way" and also my newest purchase, Simcha Fisher's "the Sinner's Guide to NFP." But reading all of these testimonies and comments, this is definitely the next book that I will be reading! My husband is a saint too, I swear. I see so much of Jesus' character in him, yet in the past, I used to start so many unnecessary fights over the stupidest things with him. And I realize now, that all of those fights stemmed from my ego...from my love of self. I wanted to be treated like a princess and made sure I pointed out my now-husband's every single mistake or "mistreatment" of me....when all he ever was, was a simple, loyal, loving guy who just wanted to make me happy. I mostly eliminated my bad attitude now and that selfish outlook on life, but sometimes I still do see elements of it in my life. So, I cannot wait to read this book and benefit from it....and my husband benefit from it as well.<br /><br />God Bless<br />AgnesRestlessCatholicGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06045855968914350157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-69030078136137496882013-10-24T18:03:35.548-07:002013-10-24T18:03:35.548-07:00Amen. There is no better hug than the one after a ...Amen. There is no better hug than the one after a good confession when marriage issues are involved. It's irresistible to forgive after you yourself have been forgiven. It's a big deal. Amen again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15188319685568262029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-21516005396633050382013-10-24T17:26:24.152-07:002013-10-24T17:26:24.152-07:00"On a side note, confession is very healing t..."On a side note, confession is very healing too and a great way to start over."<br /><br />I agree!!! In Confession Christ offers us as many "start-overs" as we want. He gives us His Divine mercy and His peace. He makes everything new, and offers His grace to aid us. Many times when I have failed in this or that in my marriage, I have found Confession very powerful. It just is easier to be kind to my wife after going to Confession and having God forgive all my sins. It is humbling.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04350804300916796238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-47544149394444847842013-10-24T13:50:13.792-07:002013-10-24T13:50:13.792-07:00Ditto that.Ditto that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-75695042110192558562013-10-24T13:13:57.541-07:002013-10-24T13:13:57.541-07:00Chris, you continue to crack me up!Chris, you continue to crack me up!Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-21863829848384165092013-10-24T11:43:29.751-07:002013-10-24T11:43:29.751-07:00Quick note from someone on the receiving end of Dr...Quick note from someone on the receiving end of Dr. Laura's nugget of real wisdom. My wife took to that book like a heat seeking missile when it came out and has successfully applied its principles for many years with much success. We simply don't struggle with many of the common problems people have in large part because of that book. We still struggle and fight but we have good fruitful fights about real issues not the useless peeing contests that can truly and sometimes permanently handicap progress and resolution. And good fruitful fights I think are kinda healthy. Big fight , make up, have another baby, agree the baby is cute , can't image life without the new baby etc etc. then it starts over. " how are we going to deal with this crazy NFP thing?" " It wouldn't be so hard if you didn't drop eggs like a sock-eye salmon" " oh so it's all my fault?" " how about a margarita after the rosary?" " you are insane " and so on. <br />Seriously though, the book will either fix or help. Period. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15188319685568262029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-43781564134448133382013-10-24T09:13:53.308-07:002013-10-24T09:13:53.308-07:00I have ordered part two to this marriage workshop:...I have ordered part two to this marriage workshop: "The Proper Care and Feeding Husbands". :-) I hope to continue to be inspired by the books, because it's so easy to fall into old habits. <br /><br />On a side note, confession is very healing too and a great way to start over.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10451590537173713861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-62780485318473279342013-10-24T00:30:54.153-07:002013-10-24T00:30:54.153-07:00Just downloaded it to my kindle. :-) Just downloaded it to my kindle. :-) Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11501575551066939483noreply@blogger.com