tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post8353642770134394669..comments2024-03-21T04:02:46.799-07:00Comments on Little Catholic Bubble: Why I never should have had eight childrenLeila@LittleCatholicBubblehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comBlogger165125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-42581177816952724432017-10-28T14:32:41.241-07:002017-10-28T14:32:41.241-07:00Well, I looked at the photo for a long time trying...Well, I looked at the photo for a long time trying to figure out which one was the mother! After I thought I had the right one, I saw later that I was not correct. Congratulations for being such a beautiful mother of 8!<br /><br />Just think of how exciting your life will be as you get older. I have 16 grandchildren now, and you are likely to have a lot more than that!Bellringerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13867686822228648773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-13865862017607581822015-11-19T19:39:40.226-07:002015-11-19T19:39:40.226-07:00I love your honesty and you make me feel normal! ...I love your honesty and you make me feel normal! My husband came across your story on lifenews and asked me to read it just as I was exhausted and trying to figure out how to manage the next day. We have five kids under the age of 8 and I home school. I am a convert and only had one sister so this is all SO new to me. I am so much like what you listed above. I love my littles so much and we keep God at the heart of everything. It is not perfect, and we all start over every thirty minutes. The kids have made me realize my faults which I would have never realized without them. Which in turns helps me work on myself with the graces of God to get closer to heaven. These are the challenging years. I can't wait to live this out to the end....the kids getting older, college, jobs, marriage, grandkids...the works!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10808289905595217359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-54812248902035250632014-11-20T09:36:57.374-07:002014-11-20T09:36:57.374-07:00Gosh, this is so beautifully expressed I teared up...Gosh, this is so beautifully expressed I teared up a bit at the goodness of this truth. Thank you so much for sharing! For your witness! And for your humility! We've always wanted a large family, but our families don't understand that and find it irresponsible if we have more than our two boys. With c-sections in our path I imagine our family won't be as large as we desire in our hearts, but Gods Will be done one day at a time :) Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18162208045999030991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-58174879620135860552014-02-16T21:49:44.199-07:002014-02-16T21:49:44.199-07:00Hi Leila
I have read and re read this post many ti...Hi Leila<br />I have read and re read this post many times and I am really grateful to you for writing it. Just found out that we will be expecting baby number 7 and one we lost to miscarriage who is in heaven. Thank you for your inspiration. SO many people are telling me so many reasons as to why we should not have anymore etc. Our eldest will be 8 on Sunday and our youngest is 9 months. Thank you once again and please do keep us in your prayers. xUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16531876082043337083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-43207155846845675342013-10-02T10:34:09.636-07:002013-10-02T10:34:09.636-07:00I am all that list and more, preparing to begin fe...I am all that list and more, preparing to begin fertility hormones again next month in hopes of a fourth child. The doubts, anxieties and WORK of another child were starting to creep to the forefront. Thanks for this.Anneryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04954066811992919236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-82557517930835595902013-09-18T09:27:22.336-07:002013-09-18T09:27:22.336-07:00Great Post!
I feel like I'm coming a little l...Great Post!<br /><br />I feel like I'm coming a little late to the party, but I came across your blog and this post today and it really spoke to me! We currently have 4 children, our oldest being 11 and our youngest being 6. We have felt very comfortable with the size of our family for the last few years, and I've been telling myself for many of the reasons you posted (it's like you were in my head!) that we should be "done"! Not enough money, not enough time, not enough patience, not enough space... But I get this nagging feeling sometimes that I'm not putting enough faith in God's plan for our family and forgetting His grace when we put our faith and trust in His hands. I am in awe of "big" families, even though compared to many of our friends and acquaintances, we are the "big" family! Sometimes it's hard to be "in the world, but not of the world." I wonder if my reservations to being open to having more children are based on the opinions of our current culture? Anyway, I wanted to thank you for your thoughtful and insightful post, I don't know why it's never struck me that those feelings of fear and incompetence do not come from Christ! God Bless.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-81292199111108638172013-07-24T12:51:10.521-07:002013-07-24T12:51:10.521-07:00And Amanda, sorry, but what part of my post or any...And Amanda, sorry, but what part of my post or anyone's comments made you think that no one thinks about "all these things that some normal people think about before bringing kids into this world"? <br /><br />We don't have sex with our "partners", we have sex with our spouses, which means marriage, which is the proper context in which to have and rear a child. Nope, we are not superhuman. Did you read the original post? Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-20651324569250620162013-07-24T12:48:26.366-07:002013-07-24T12:48:26.366-07:00Amanda, I am guessing you have not heard of "...Amanda, I am guessing you have not heard of "responsible parenting" that has been espoused by our popes? We have natural means of birth regulation for those times when we are unable to responsibly provide for more children. God is an amazing designer:<br /><br />http://littlecatholicbubble.blogspot.com/2011/03/natural-family-planning-post.htmlLeila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-73306549874530145212013-07-24T11:56:23.551-07:002013-07-24T11:56:23.551-07:00Reading all these comments makes me think how ever...Reading all these comments makes me think how everyone is blinded by religion. Children come into this world biologically (i.e you have sex with your partner and 'boom' you are pregnant). Are you all so ignorant at how God decides and controls your life. If so we should all be the 'Virgin Mary'. <br />I was born a Catholic not by choice obviously but now at age 34 I think differently. <br />If God decides on family planning do all catholic couples keep on having 8 children or more before putting into account if there finance is good, if there relationship is stable, if they can mentally cope, etc....... all these things that some normal people think about before bringing kids into this world.<br />Is it not better to have less children (4 the most)which means you are able to cope better and give them more individual attention. What are some of us thinking?.. Are you superhuman?. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06268676865952417892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-61903394869010723932013-05-22T16:17:43.583-07:002013-05-22T16:17:43.583-07:00Hi Just Katie! I was a little confused when I saw ...Hi Just Katie! I was a little confused when I saw you say that I said that some people shouldn't have kids. I don't remember ever saying that? I did say this in the last comment: "There are people who really should not have many children, sometimes due to poor health, either mental or physical."<br /><br />I think the Church herself says that not all married couples are called to have large families -- although all are called to be open to children, and welcome them generously! "Generously" means different things, depending on the individual circumstances of the couple involved. For example, I have a sister living with a very serious (life threatening) chronic illness, and her openness to bearing her three children was much more heroic and generous considering her condition than my having eight children. I hope that makes sense! And yes, of course we would always hope for a cure for all illness. Sometimes, God does not grant us the grace of a cure.<br /><br />But I just want to be clear that I never would say that some married people should never have any children. :)<br /><br />Blessings and thanks for your great comments here and on the other posts! Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-65633133725281140852013-05-22T00:05:41.917-07:002013-05-22T00:05:41.917-07:00Wow, great post! And it breaks my heart to see yo...Wow, great post! And it breaks my heart to see you say that *some* people shouldn't have kids. Maybe a few shouldn't, but my hope would always be that God will heal them of their illness rather than deprive them of the blessing of children and that would also be my prayer. I just don't think that just because you've had a couple of c-sections or a few weeks of postpartum blues means you shouldn't have more kids. Maybe that's not what you meant but I see that from moms ALL THE TIME.Ms Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17635251485756726487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-32160330163338877292013-04-04T22:59:51.271-07:002013-04-04T22:59:51.271-07:00rld21129, that is sad and I am sorry to hear it, t...rld21129, that is sad and I am sorry to hear it, truly. What happened with your mom that she was unable to care for three kids? It sounds like something else must have been going on, not just regular mom fatigue. There are people who really should not have many children, sometimes due to poor health, either mental or physical. I do hope that you at least have found great joy having your siblings! They are a true gift, especially in an increasingly disjointed, transient society. As I get older, I cherish my one sister even more, and while I always wished for more siblings, it really hits home now as we are all aging, and my parents are in their 70s.Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-88472604531189372752013-04-04T16:06:55.731-07:002013-04-04T16:06:55.731-07:00On the other side of this, I grew up oldest of six...On the other side of this, I grew up oldest of six. It was terrible. And while I love my siblings, I wish my mom had considered the negative effects of having so many kids. But instead, she did "god's will".<br /><br />It sucked growing up, and I would never do that to my kids. I pretty much didn't have a mom after kid #4, and became a 2nd mother at kid #3. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-36447499902842569172012-04-29T09:16:28.334-07:002012-04-29T09:16:28.334-07:00I am the mom to 9 on earth and 1 in heaven. Three ...I am the mom to 9 on earth and 1 in heaven. Three of them are adopted and I often feel the same way. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, or Mormons, and I think your comments reach outside the Catholic community to many moms of large families. Thanks for sharing.Simplymomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11758682568325475104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-44766408723002265622012-04-28T12:43:23.805-07:002012-04-28T12:43:23.805-07:00A friend showed this post to me. I could have writ...A friend showed this post to me. I could have written it too. I have 6 children on earth and 1 in heaven. In addition to being the mom, I also work with severely handicapped teenagers. There have been so many times that I have cried out to God "Why have you given these precious children to one as incompetent as I?" Thank you for pointing out that all these doubts are from the devil, not God. Thank you also for having the courage to write the blog. Many times I feel very isolated in my traditional Catholic faith. Thanks for letting people know there are still many that follow Rome.tuptonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14161118463654092972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-85544819221121185682012-04-28T12:34:35.034-07:002012-04-28T12:34:35.034-07:00I am a mother of 6 here and 1 in heaven. I too co...I am a mother of 6 here and 1 in heaven. I too could have written your post. In addition to being the Mom, I work with severely handicapped children. There are many many times I cry out to God that I have no idea what I'm doing and can't understand why He would put these precious children in my incompetent care. Thank you for pointing out that the devil is behind the doubts. God knows what we all need, even if it is not clear to us. Thanks also for having the courage to write this blog. Many times I feel like I isolated in my traditional Catholic beliefs. I am so happy to see there are others out there that still follow Rome.tuptonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14161118463654092972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-29368315785943927102012-04-24T17:09:15.305-07:002012-04-24T17:09:15.305-07:00It would not let me "reply."
I got th...It would not let me "reply." <br /><br />I got this from a facebook friend, someone I don't know irl, but worked with on a homeschool product review team. <br /><br />I'm going to sub to your feedburner. I blog too at http://www.ramblingsfromthecrazyhouse if you are interested. :) I don't blog too much right now, but hope to more this summer. Right now my keyboard is whacky, but I'm hoping to get that fixed at some point in the near future. :)The Crazy Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11289367291336761873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-58199570675877854072012-04-24T13:29:18.173-07:002012-04-24T13:29:18.173-07:00Wait a minute, did I write this and forget?! :) Yo...Wait a minute, did I write this and forget?! :) Your list of "issues" sounds exactly like mine!! I've been wrestling with the same problem, not being "good enough" to raise kids (like we're ever good enough to receive ANY of God's blessings!!). Thank you so much for posting this. I truly needed the encouragement right now.Okaasanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18284147430768802684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-22901175781241675542012-04-23T22:31:45.604-07:002012-04-23T22:31:45.604-07:00Oh, thank you, Cmerie!Oh, thank you, Cmerie!Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-47812882813199921362012-04-23T16:19:38.704-07:002012-04-23T16:19:38.704-07:00I saw this again just recently. It was linked to ...I saw this again just recently. It was linked to on facebook from We Can Stop Abortion, I think....Cmeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01363226630838395602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-86233207281904545222012-04-23T16:07:08.831-07:002012-04-23T16:07:08.831-07:00Wow, this post has had a resurgence!! I am so thri...Wow, this post has had a resurgence!! I am so thrilled about that! Lots of women like me out there, ha ha! Okay, where did you all find this link? Someone must have posted it somewhere with lots of readers…<br /><br />(Crazy Mom, I feel like we are already friends, yay!)Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-73639325285603335172012-04-23T15:36:47.687-07:002012-04-23T15:36:47.687-07:00I had to crack up your list as I probably would ha...I had to crack up your list as I probably would have come up with the exact same list, and have, mentally, more than once. I have 8 kids too! We should be friends! :)<br /><br />I have decided that I am good with stuff inside my head. I can read, write, reseach, and talk, but cooking, cleaning, decorating, sports, dance, and such do not come natural. Oh, well, too late now! LOLThe Crazy Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11289367291336761873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-21188387542263838832012-04-23T10:24:07.341-07:002012-04-23T10:24:07.341-07:00Thank you so so much for posting this. I have 4 c...Thank you so so much for posting this. I have 4 children, and every month, when that time comes around, I would love to have another, but my husband says we have all we can handle. I would love to have another child. This post has touched me deeply. Thank you so much for your writing. God has blessed you!!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15033579091117548830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-84500124871726119142012-01-09T08:15:08.097-07:002012-01-09T08:15:08.097-07:00Boy God knew what he was doing when he directed me...Boy God knew what he was doing when he directed me to your blog today..... of your list, these are the ones I can relate to:<br />I'm not organised.<br />I can't cook. (well I can, but I don't want to)<br />I have nooooo patience.<br />I am not crafty in the least.<br />I can't sew.<br />I can't throw a party (and nor do I want to)<br />I'm not athletic or outdoorsy.<br />I don't know how to make a pretty home (and can't see any need to)<br />I don't know how to make anything fun.<br />I am lazy and a procrastinator.<br />I am sarcastic and cranky.<br />I am a complainer.<br />I like to be alone.<br />I hate to be interrupted or inconvenienced.<br />I am not particularly good with children.<br /><br />I screamed at my 2 children (aged 7 & 4) more often than i care to remember over the past 12 months, and I smacked them both in public today.....several times.....<br /><br />And you are right when you say God is teaching us through our children!<br /><br />Bless you!Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17435614542778572436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-15830797698929296982011-12-07T08:17:58.500-07:002011-12-07T08:17:58.500-07:00Robin, that was beautiful. Thank you for sharing. ...Robin, that was beautiful. Thank you for sharing. You made my morning.Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08057654080632377742noreply@blogger.com