tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post3555118745805795075..comments2024-03-21T04:02:46.799-07:00Comments on Little Catholic Bubble: Are you in a troubled marriage? Another woman who saved her marriage in five minutes.Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-55084102642482271602016-07-24T07:54:04.688-07:002016-07-24T07:54:04.688-07:00I would like to advice any one out there who is ex...I would like to advice any one out there who is experiencing love trauma , Financial difficulty, Child bearing , Miscarriages and so many more. All thanks to Dr. Madu for the good works he has been doing for my family and Friends, For I will always be grateful to Him for the his good works. He helped me with a spell that brought back my broken relationship and also i was able to have a baby after so many miscarriages. You could contact Dr. Madu to on his email: ( maduutemple @ gmail . com )or his Whatsapp : +234 8107 547 068 for his nice spell work.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06465941151383963768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-39455374164393138242016-03-20T21:11:57.916-07:002016-03-20T21:11:57.916-07:00Elizabeth, this VERY day, I spent the entire day A...Elizabeth, this VERY day, I spent the entire day ALONE, out and about doing my own thing, from right after mass until about 7:30pm. It was SO renewing! I needed some time alone after two or three weeks with a full house (spring break for kids, also out of town kids and visitors). As an introvert, I just needed my "own" time and space. And with SIX males still in the house this weekend, I needed to get away, so I did! BEST THING EVER!! One hour of that getaway was to the Blessed Sacrament. So amazing!! I highly recommend it every now and then! :)Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-57878750281772372352016-03-20T16:52:40.320-07:002016-03-20T16:52:40.320-07:00Back to that comment made about the mom making sur...Back to that comment made about the mom making sure she gets time for herself. ..I don't disagree in theory with the comment, but maybe I don't get the tone. In my marriage I know I do much better when I take a break at times. I do a study group at church. I also have traded child care time with friends so we each get a break occasionally. We home school, so it's not like I get a ton of "me time" but I try to take a bit of time each day, we call it quiet time because not everyone naps, and I take 15 minutes to pray. A few times a year, I ask my husband for a free afternoon on a Saturday and then we all meet up for dinner out or he makes something like pasta. It is important to recharge so we have something to give, but I do think we also have to, both husband and wife, build each other up first, to practice that idea of servant leadership meaning we lead in our own roles by service to others. When I do get in a funk, I can see that I need to go to confession, need to maybe take an hour for myself, and then jump in with a fresh smile and the choice to be loving and accept that I am not always the one whose needs get met first (I'm not saying anyone else has said that! I just get that way in my head! ).Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08062400082317249281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-1408052797029477882016-03-15T09:28:25.636-07:002016-03-15T09:28:25.636-07:00Pro-ACA, where did you go?Pro-ACA, where did you go?Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-23835934769874779972016-03-11T22:17:44.518-07:002016-03-11T22:17:44.518-07:00Meaning, it seems to be a pattern of yours here on...Meaning, it seems to be a pattern of yours here on the blog. Let's break that pattern and really talk, instead of emote. Thank you. Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-72483314311355629402016-03-11T22:16:32.018-07:002016-03-11T22:16:32.018-07:00Pro-ACA, I am just trying to figure out why you e...Pro-ACA, I am just trying to figure out why you enter the comments, drop some accusation bombs that are full of emotion and short on quotes (from us) and facts, and then when we correct your misrepresentations of us and our beliefs time and again, you disappear. I don't remember you apologizing for the misrepresentations and straw men set up in our names, but if you would occasionally remember that we are people, too, and in justice, we have a right to have our views reflected correctly. When you find out that you have grossly misrepresented us, it would be nice if you didn't just disappear until the next time you blast us for something else, but rather simply say, "Gosh, I'm sorry that I completely misrepresented you." That would go a long way and would show forth some good will. Thanks!<br />Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-66316460696712872842016-03-11T12:42:31.415-07:002016-03-11T12:42:31.415-07:00"if you think that they in anyway ESPOUSE the..."if you think that they in anyway ESPOUSE the same feminism as Cecile Richards, Hillary Clinton, Gloria Steinem, the Democratic Party..."<br /><br />Ugh, I hate my phone. And if there are any other typos, please blame Apple or Siri. <br /><br />By the way, not a word of joy and happiness for the woman who wrote the bulk of this post? Isn't happy, joyful marriage what the world needs so desperately?Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-17587375492968432612016-03-11T12:37:46.824-07:002016-03-11T12:37:46.824-07:00There are many women in the Feminists for Life gro...<i>There are many women in the Feminists for Life group that advocate strongly for lots of things for women that you and Nubby denigrate regularly here (equal pay, holding employers' accountable for family leave, etc.).</i><br /><br />What are you talking about? Again with the misrepresenting of my thoughts. Must you?<br /><br />I never ever said I don't want equal pay for women. <br /><br />I pointed out that the wage-gap idea is a myth. Neither have I ever said anything about holding any employers accountable for family leave. So, what exactly are you referring to?<br /><br />I've suggested before to you that it's a natural courtesy to quote me accurately if you're going to engage me. Can you do that much so we can be on the right foot?<br /><br />And if you don't believe that modern feminism attacks families at their root, then you're not familiar with the likes of Simone de Beauvoir and Ellen Hermann and the lot. Family is the enemy. Kids are "parasites", housewives are parasites, and family is an "oppressor" according to these lovely ladies. A woman's value is only found in what she can generate in industry or in the workplace. She should free herself from the shackles of family life and fulfill her mission in being usable for the working world. <br /><br />Despite your wrong assumption, I'm not anti-working woman, anti-educated woman or anti-woman period, ProACA, even if you wanna tuck me neatly in your box of 'traditionalist'. Did you need to see a resume of mine or maybe a paystub? Your opinion of me is low and based on horrible assumptions. <br /><br />Again, for future reference, quote me accurately or don't refer to me at all, thank you.Nubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15972118374098863290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-78694736272468100912016-03-11T12:23:25.249-07:002016-03-11T12:23:25.249-07:00Pro-ACA, i'll tell you what is "just wron...Pro-ACA, i'll tell you what is "just wrong". It's misrepresenting other people's views.<br /><br />I am a huge fan of Feminists for Life. if you think that they in anyway the spells the same feminism as Cecile Richards, Hillary Clinton, Gloria Steinem, the Democratic Party, you are woefully misinformed. Totally different animals. <br /><br />The book I recommended has nothing in it about women staying home and foregoing careers. So there is another assumption you made about me -- another misrepresentation. The reason I recommended the book had nothing to do with career versus staying home.<br /><br />Plenty of my friends are professional women, so I'm not sure where your long string of certainties and accusations came from?<br /><br />I think your comment might be correctly labeled as one big straw man. You can build a straw man and knock it down but none of that has anything to do with my views. So I'm not sure how productive that is.<br /><br />And by the way, right on its face, the linchpin of the modern feminist movement is "reproductive rights" which is an unsubtle codeword for abortion on demand. Am I to believe that you don't see that as pitting a mother against her own children? And certainly we can dive into the modern feminist view of marriage and men if you'd like. Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-85219818608347029472016-03-11T12:00:14.415-07:002016-03-11T12:00:14.415-07:00The "crap" feminism put out there? &quo...The "crap" feminism put out there? "Pitting us against our husbands and our children." Huh? Where does feminism pit us against our husbands and children? Many, many feminists like me love our husbands and children, and I do not see how I have been pitted against them by the feminist movement. <br />While nothing in the original post or the comments focuses on this, Dr. Laura is not a favorite of mine. I have not read the books referenced here and based on what you are all saying about them, they seem fine. But Dr. Laura is very much a traditionalist. I am not. And there is nothing in Catholic teaching that requires me to be a traditionalist in my family life. Dr. Laura is very much an advocate for women leaving the workplace and staying home with children, and indeed she is very clear that this is what children deserve and what women must do. When asked when, in her opinion, would be an appropriate time to return to the workforce (i.e., what age of the children), she responded, "Never." It is a reality in the world today (and we can all thank God for that) that women, including mothers, work outside the home, either because they choose to or because they need to. I just think it is so odd that Dr. Laura's dream world would have all women working in the home and caring for children and family. How would that work? Do we really want NO women engineers, NO women doctors, NO women astronauts, NO women soldiers, NO women scientists, NO women lawyers or judges, NO women legislators at the local, state or federal level, NO women mayors or governors or presidents. Really? Or, rather, maybe she would say we could have women doing those things, but when they become mothers they must leave those positions. And I suppose she also believes that it is okay for women to be nurses, teachers, social workers and administrative assistants, but again, to leave those positions when they become mothers. Can you imagine that? Do we really only want women who are not parents in the workforce? I can only imagine the workplace then. Not good. This original post about how women should treat their husbands in their marriage should not be dragged down into an anti-feminism tirade. Nothing about feminism teaches women to treat their husbands badly. Leila, I sense that you see feminism as one thing - pro-abortion - and that women advocating for abortion rights and forcing this view on men makes men "un-manly." There are many women in the Feminists for Life group that advocate strongly for lots of things for women that you and Nubby denigrate regularly here (equal pay, holding employers' accountable for family leave, etc.). Feminism is not defined by the pro-abortion movement. This blog makes feminism the scapegoat for all of society's ills. Just wrong.Pro ACAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09577135823624254505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-41848436679071516962016-03-11T08:11:42.377-07:002016-03-11T08:11:42.377-07:00My heart beems that this couple from the OP is get...My heart beems that this couple from the OP is getting along so well! The lines of communication have been open between them and it sounds like they are both getting their needs met :) <br /><br />Jack and I were on a Theology of the Body couples retreat last weekend given by a very faithful amazing priest. One of the stats he quoted said there was an estimated 40 million sexless marriages in the U.S. That shocked me, especially as so many people claim contraception give them "freedom" to be with their spouse whenever they want. The marital embrace is so important to the marital bond. We as women sometimes forget that because we are pregnant, post partum or PMSing. We need to remember that for men (because they are different you know) that is one of the main ways they feel bonded to and loved by their wife. Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13670331855264293102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-80607827325248931342016-03-09T11:28:09.415-07:002016-03-09T11:28:09.415-07:00I asked "Maria" (of the OP) for her comm...I asked "Maria" (of the OP) for her comments for those who are concerned for her well-being (and it is very kind of them to be concerned). This is what she said:<br /><br /><i>As for my response to the people concerned if my needs are being met....Yes!! We have amazing babysitters that allow me a chance to workout myself. John's idea. He encouraged me to start a women's group with the few friends I have here...started and it's going great. His idea. On the weekends, he does the night feedings and let's me sleep until whenever! His idea. He is incredibly generous and supportive and constantly desiring that my needs be met. I am beyond grateful and blessed. He had always been this encouraging and supportive even when I was at my worst. So the point isn't whether my needs are being met (because they are!), it's that for the first time I looked past myself to be under his mission. </i><br /><br />(For Catholic mom and sthenryii)<br /><br /><br />Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-42787440646208613092016-03-08T20:41:11.393-07:002016-03-08T20:41:11.393-07:00Haha I think time spent in the bedroom is really h...Haha I think time spent in the bedroom is really healthy for men...and women. God made both the husband and wife sexual creatures ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17593706425834744030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-7770130636979594362016-03-08T17:52:17.219-07:002016-03-08T17:52:17.219-07:00Johanne, I don't understand Dellentie, either....Johanne, I don't understand Dellentie, either. I am pretty sure we have asked him not to comment anymore. He is usually rambling and insulting to us here, and I am not sure why he is commenting. Sigh. I'm going to go ahead and delete his comment.<br /><br />Also, support and respect, yes, but the books are pretty specific as to the differences between men and women, husbands and wives. We women are very much relational, and we have the support of our girlfriends, moms, sisters, etc. Men generally do not have those types of relationships, and they mostly lean on or have those friendships with their wives. And so when their wives disrespect or spurn them, it's more crushing than we women can imagine, especially since men's worth is really connected to their sense of "am I good enough, providing well, man enough?" Men are hardwired to be heroes, esp. to their women. If wives nag and degrade them, they have nowhere to turn. There is much more to it, but that's a huge part of it. Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-82600103747550394852016-03-08T17:38:10.851-07:002016-03-08T17:38:10.851-07:00Sounds like some of the ideas in the book (offerin...Sounds like some of the ideas in the book (offering support, respect) are good advice for improving other kinds of relationships as well. Friends, siblings, children, parents could all use a little more support and respect.<br /><br />@Dellentie: huh?<br />Johannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07861467738117604139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-83396050282942835642016-03-08T14:37:06.863-07:002016-03-08T14:37:06.863-07:00Checked out the PP resources too - sick, sick, sic...Checked out the PP resources too - sick, sick, sick. Unbelievable!<br />Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-37568237319697068922016-03-08T14:33:15.833-07:002016-03-08T14:33:15.833-07:00Leila, my sister gave me this book a few years ago...Leila, my sister gave me this book a few years ago and I never read it because the title sounded lame. Seriously, I thought the title made husbands sound like dogs so I tossed it aside! And she TOLD me it was really good! Now I have to go search for it because I read your links and realized that I shouldn't have tossed it aside so easily. Thanks for the heads-up! Marriages can always improve - even good ones!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-83250315327478917292016-03-08T13:22:01.091-07:002016-03-08T13:22:01.091-07:00From a wonderful woman who gave me permission to p...From a wonderful woman who gave me permission to post her reaction:<br /><br />"That made me cry.<br />I wish I had known years ago how to be a more loving wife. I try to live with my regrets and what I have gained by changing my life after divorce. Boy, all the awful things I said and did, and really only needed to be talking to a mirror. God has given me much, forgiven me often, and guided me to the mountain to pray until I am done."Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-90336523715963765202016-03-08T12:31:11.737-07:002016-03-08T12:31:11.737-07:00sthenryii, I agree, but I think the focus of her l...sthenryii, I agree, but I think the focus of her letter (at least as I see it) is not to jump directly on what he can do for her now, but to rejoice that this couple is very happy again. He is (from what she said) not staying late at work anymore, but coming home to his family. I guess since she in no way is complaining that she now needs to get to the gym, why would we (who are outsiders) bring it up? That is what I think I didn't understand about the comment. We mustn't go looking for trouble in a marriage, especially one that is not our own. <br /><br />Yes, I think that the word St. Paul used was "submissive" ("wives, be submissive to your husbands"), and I absolutely love that the word means, literally, to "be under the mission of". Gives it a whole new perspective that our modern ears can hear! :)Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-75571655832725429562016-03-08T11:29:57.441-07:002016-03-08T11:29:57.441-07:00Leila, I think what Catholic Mom may have been try...Leila, I think what Catholic Mom may have been trying to say (and please correct me if I misunderstood you, CM!) is this: It's awesome that Maria stopped nagging! It sounds like that had a very positive impact on their family However, she's in a very busy season of life because her children are all still very young and need a great deal from her, and she is understandably exhausted. While it's great that she's allowing him to go the gym and their home life is less stressful, I hope he understands that she needs some time to relax too and is providing her with opportunity to do so. <br /><br />(I think the "obedient" bit refers to one of St. Paul's letters, danged if I can remember which one...)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-49717897503649469002016-03-08T10:59:23.091-07:002016-03-08T10:59:23.091-07:00And yes, that's a total non-sequitur, but I am...And yes, that's a total non-sequitur, but I am sick.Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-51036531984421175832016-03-08T10:57:39.151-07:002016-03-08T10:57:39.151-07:00Oh, thanks for the reminder, Nubby! I'm off to...Oh, thanks for the reminder, Nubby! I'm off to dig up my purple ribbons!!! Or not.<br /><br />And while researching my book just now, I found this gem, from Planned Parenthood for our young people. Can I barf now?????<br /><br />https://www.plannedparenthood.org/educators/resources/digital-tools<br /><br />Seriously, don't watch if you don't want to be ill.<br />Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-46119607192840477682016-03-08T10:52:43.944-07:002016-03-08T10:52:43.944-07:00When I think of the crap that feminism has put out...<i>When I think of the crap that feminism has put out there, pitting us against our men, pitting us against our children. </i><br /><br />Hey, but, Leila, the world wants you to know it's International Women's Day today celebrating all of our female "achievements". You should be sporting a purple ribbon for this, per wiki's page.<br /><br />Just so we're clear, we're supposed to celebrate women - and only women- today, based on our sex alone, even though it's supposed to be a day of anti-sexism. Standard logic. ;)Nubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15972118374098863290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-69102070589887404632016-03-08T10:11:49.892-07:002016-03-08T10:11:49.892-07:00Nubby, I could not have said it better! Yes, yes!!...Nubby, I could not have said it better! Yes, yes!! <br /><br />Rochelle, thank you! I have to clarify that I have never read <i>The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriages</i>, but only <i>The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands</i> (and <i>Woman Power</i>). I know that the Marriages one came later, and I assume it's very similar to the Husbands one! I should probably read that one so that I'm up to speed!<br /><br />Michelle, yes! I remember many long years ago, I heard Dr. Laura on the radio saying to a withholding woman, "Your husband didn't get married to be celibate!" The point was made and it was like a lightbulb. How it crushes our men when we withhold the thing that makes them feel loved (yes, men are DIFFERENT from women!!). <br /><br />When I think of the crap that feminism has put out there, pitting us against our men, pitting us against our children. Fuming.... Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-240447238522390484.post-3341873472519818522016-03-08T09:35:10.145-07:002016-03-08T09:35:10.145-07:00This made me cry too! Thank you Maria and Leila. ...This made me cry too! Thank you Maria and Leila. One of the things that I have finally learned about my husband is that he feels most loved and adored in the bedroom (or with 7 children still home ~ wherever). I fought this issue for so long and I thought I had some really good excuses. <br /><br />I'd do all of these wonderful things for him and couldn't figure out why he was still miserable and unappreciative. Except they weren't what he needed most. Well, I've changed my ways and boy oh boy has he! And do you know what? I was not only depriving him by myself as well.<br /><br />Also, I cringe when I think of how many times that I've corrected him in front of his children. Even once feels like too many. <br /><br />God is so good. Thank you again. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09683674751076218614noreply@blogger.com